Three years ago today, my husband proposed to me on a mountain top.
I said yes and 17 months later we got married.
SL and I have been through a lot in the past three years – A LOT! Between the two of us we have switched jobs 4 times, we bought a house, had an amazing wedding and traveled across the world. We’ve also dealt with some not so fun things – death of SL’s grandmother, numerous hospital visits for members of my family and struggles to start a family of our own.
Throughout all of this, being engaged and being married has been wonderful. I will never say he is my other half because am I am 100% completely me but he is the best partner I could have ever asked for.
3 Things I’ve Learned Over the Past 3 Years
In loving SL more and more every day, I’ve learned to love myself a bit more as well. Gone are the days of hate filled self talk. Yes, this may have just come with age but if I fall into a self-hatred trap, SL doesn’t want to hear it and quickly pulls me out.
Pick my battles and SL picks his. We are very different people and yet somehow we manage to not fight/argue/bicker all that often. Will SL ever do a load of laundry? Probably not, but I won’t mow the lawn either. Will SL ever open his mail the day he gets it instead of letting it pile up for weeks? I doubt it, but I won’t touch the kitty litter (gross AF!)
We have clearly defined our house chores and I’ve learned that letting him do his chores his way and doing mine my way works really well for us and our marriage.
Getting away (even if it just getting out of the house for a few hours) is very important. Why is it that when you own a house there is ALWAYS a project that has to get done? Often times we would find ourselves knee deep in house chores all weekend and on weeknights after work. What fun is that? Answer – it’s not fun.
We found that we had to start scheduling time to get out of the house and go fun things. While its just the two of us, I think its important to spend time together that doesn’t include a couch and a TV.
People say the first year of marriage is the hardest. People also say that it’s still the honeymoon phase. This just goes to show that everyone’s marriage is different. I am happy to report that the past 3 years of being engaged and married have easily been the best three years of my life.
I can only hope that things continue to be amazing! Love you SL ❤️
A big thank you to Amanda for hosting Thinking Out Loud.