T-minus 17 days until I become a Mrs.! WHAT?! We have been engaged for the past 485 days and it has gone by SO SLOWLY. Here is hoping the next 17 days go by quickly for me.
I thought by now I would be that super-stressed, bridezilla that only eats grapefruit and drinks coffee (<— I had grapefruit and coffee for breakfast but then a burrito for lunch…no shame #bridediet). But to be honest, I am about as mellow as can be.
I think everyone around me (especially my MIL) are waiting for the panicked, overly stressed bridezilla to come out but it’s not going to happen. That’s just not my style and I have a few tips on how to not let that monster come out in the weeks before our wedding.
How To Be the Least Stressed Bride EVER!
Know What You Want
I have been to A LOT of weddings. I think between the two of us, SL and I have been to over 20 weddings in the past 5 years. I have truly enjoyed seeing almost all of my friends (and some family members) tie the knot with the loves of their lives but more importantly, I have been able to make a mental checklist of my needs, wants, likes and dislikes.
Learning from others and knowing what I wanted helped alleviate decision fatigue and made the majority of wedding planning stress-free. And remember, as cliche as it is, this is OUR day. Do you. Not your mom, not your mother-in-law, not your sister or best friend or aunt or random stranger that feels the need to chime in with what you JUST HAVE TO DO/HAVE.
Let your voice be heard girl!
It’s not going to be perfect. But then again, it is.
Shit happens. AMIRIGHT? A few years ago I was working with a girl who was getting married in NYC and her coordinator quit 2 weeks before her wedding day. She was extremely calm as she was talking about the whole ordeal and said that if anything went wrong, there was a pizza place across the street they could all go to for pies and beers.
I realized then that barring disaster – like SL not showing up – there are very few things that would ruin my day. There are plenty of things that could go “wrong” on our wedding day but none of those things stress me out because at the end of the day SL and I will still be going home as husband and wife.
Also, if anything does go “wrong” I might be the only one to notice and therefore it would only bother me. If the rest of our 175 guests aren’t bothered, why should I be? I fully plan on enjoying the night because even if thing do go “wrong” it will still be perfect, in my eyes.
Make it about your marriage, not your wedding.
I’ve know I wanted to marry SL since year one (not day one, I’m not that crazy). I am looking forward to really seeing where the rest of our lives take us, together. Yes, I am really excited for our wedding and to celebrate with our family and friends but I am more excited about the decades of life we will live together.
I have legitimate (written down) marriage goals for myself because be married is WORK. I know this. Having a wedding is kind of work – but not really. It’s more like busy work and therefore, I am not stressed about it.
Look past the “big day” and towards the rest of your (married) life. That is what it is really all about anyway.
Wifeys: Were you low-stress or a panicked, overly stressed bridezilla?
Brides-to-be: Where are you on the stress-o-meter?
- I am currently at a 3 only due to indecision on what to eat while in my dress. I am such a slob and will most likely spill all over myself.
