I read a ton of other blogs. Lifestyle, food, fitness, fashion, creative entrepreneurship – you name it, I read it. Earlier this week, Jen Carrington wrote about how ego can hold you back in business. One of the ego-driven emotions and behaviors that hold people back is impatience.
Letting impatience take over can lead to losing clarity, focus and motivation which is not something I’m down with. Luckily, in Jen’s post, she discussed ways to overcome ego-driven emotions and behaviors. Here are her tips on dealing with impatience and my comments on each.
Embrace the season you’re in.
I’d love to say that this will be easy. I am over being in the season that I am in. The thing about life is that I’m in it for the long haul. Each season of life serves its purpose, even if you struggle to understand the purpose of difficult seasons.
However, when I take a step back, there are experiences and opportunities available to me right now that wouldn’t be if I were in the season of life I yearn for.
For instance, SL and I dropped everything on Tuesday night and went to a Red Sox game. We had a great date night together. Also, we just planned a quick trip to Portugal in October. This is something I would not have the opportunity to do if I were in a different season of life.
Find joy in the here and now.
Yes, I am frustrated with our fertility/infertility battle right now but not everything in my life is bad. It would be so easy to withdraw from life and be cold, angry and jaded.
Instead, I choose to wake up each day and show up to life, mostly wholeheartedly. Taking purposeful steps each day towards eventually getting pregnant will get me to the season of life I yearn for quicker than withdrawing.
Explore the stories you’re telling yourself.
Why am I feeling so impatient? Is it because I thought I would be in a different season of life by now? Is it because 95% of my friends already have kids and I feel left out or left behind?
Yes, all of these are a little bit true. I always thought SL and I would decide to start a family and 40 weeks later we would welcome a little one into our lives. Never in a million years did I think we would be in the position we are now.
Another reason for my raging impatience is not know WHY we are dealing with infertility. All of our tests have come back great. There is nothing our doctors can point to and say, “This is why you haven’t been able to conceive.” That is the most frustrating thing of all. I am impatient for answers that may or may not come.
This shit isn’t easy.
I’ll leave you with words of serious wisdom from Jen:
“Let your desire and excitement for the future fuel your momentum and energy in the here and now – don’t let it overwhelm you into a state of frustration and inaction.”
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I hope you all have a great day and if you dealing with something really really hard – I feel you!
Linking up with Amanda for Thinking Out Loud.